The sale sign is up and we are ready to go...Literally Ready to GO!

Almost up North

It’s just days away from putting the house on the market.  The last 6 months have been a whirlwind for me.  Getting the house ready was only one aspect.  The other was that my plans for a 62 retirement age were thwarted by new management who has so graciously let me keep my job even if I move out of state.  I do work entirely from home with the occasional visit to the office for a meeting.  I also feel more in touch with this new management even though they are interim.  And the team of nurses that remains is steadfast, secure and patient oriented.  I find some of the things that I missed creeping back into our practice.  It’s a kinder gentler management.  Now don’t get me wrong the old managers had many, many good things that they brought to the table.  I believe that we are going to keep most of those policies but I also feel that we are going to be building on them as well. As always in the world of medicine everything is always evolving. Only the future will tell.

 But retirement is on the backburner for now.  I have too many things to pay for in the new home. If there is one thing that I learned about homes, from the ones that I have sold, it’s that fixing them the way you want them to be should not happen 6 months before you are selling your home.  In the last 4 years we updated our kitchen, got new floors and carpet for the first floor, updated our powder room and completely redid both our bathrooms.  Someone else is going to enjoy all my work!  

Not so with the up north house!  We have four things that are definitely on my wish list of things to do.  One is The lower level kitchenette.  I want a Hot tub and a Dock.  And a little repair/enlarging of the Deck would suit me just fine.  I think I will get all these wishes granted…I hope!

A Memory from Mueller's Lake

Will I ever see another shooting star?  I follow NASA on Facebook and they always announce the meteor showers.  NASA tells you the dates, the times, where in the country they are best viewed.  I have, in the past, put those dates on my calendar only to notice them a few days after the meteors have landed.  Now I have alerts sent to my email on the days that yield those elusive fallen stars.  I am always disappointed by cloud cover or the fact that our area produces too much light to ever see a star.  Or worse yet, my sightings are hampered by the fact that I can’t stay awake to see them.

But I will never forget that magical night back in the late 60’s when a group of kids from Polar, Wisconsin took me to the top of the hill that overhangs Mueller’s lake. The night was warm and clear so I would guess that the month was July or August, because as any of you know, who are familiar with northern Wisconsin, June nights are not usually warm. I am also guessing that it was the end of summer because there was a certain camaraderie that had developed.  Every summer when I would head up north I would start all over.   I spent a lot of time up there that summer.  I found it all so romantic compared to the routine of my Chicago life.

Summer would begin with a visit to Laurie who lived in one of those “don’t  blink or you’ll miss it” Wisconsin towns.  She was the older sister of the boy who stole my heart the first summer I was visiting.  I was such a dreamer and romantic.  He gave me my first kiss.   Ahhh.. so long ago. The winter would cool all summer affections but in that moment love would last forever. Enough with the loves as my sons used to say when I would get mushy. On each first day up north I would trek to Elton and Laurie would pour me a cup of coffee (I hated coffee but it seemed so grown up) and tell me everything I missed during the winter months, who was going steady, who had broken up, and everything in between.  I loved visiting with Laurie.

That  one amazing night in particular sticks out so much in my memory because of the sight of a falling star raining down over the concession stand at that little beach.  I don’t remember who exactly I was with, Carol, Sam, Tom,  maybe others whose names I don’t recall. Who I was with eludes me.  But that indigo sky painted with that single streak of light is imprinted on my mind like a tintype photograph.  I remember asking “what is that…that streak of light”.  And someone laughed "it’s a shooting star, haven’t you ever seen a shooting star before?"  I hadn’t and I haven’t really seen a vivid one since then.

Some people have trips to exotic places on their bucket list.  I have a few of those, but the things  I really want to experience before I die are those gifts that nature sent, that are elusive but well within my reach, I want to visit Yosemite falls, view an aurora borealis and most of all experience showers of lights from the heavens.  I am ready to have my breath taken away from me once more.

Part Three The Final Search or Up North and Then Some

A month or 2 later I arranged visits to homes for sale in the Green Bay, Door County area.  We saw some really beautiful homes.  One especially looked good.  It was built recently  and it sat right on Lake Michigan .  Gorgeous views from every window.  The problem was that it sat on a cliff. There was a 75 foot straight drop to the lake.  We decided to keep looking.
 
Then there was a 1990 built home on a lake northeast of Green Bay.  It was beautiful but not much of a view from the house and everything needed to be replaced, needed new furnace, new roof.  We wanted to start fresh.  I won’t go into the ones we laughed at and shook our heads about.  There was one that was full of guns and trophy heads.  Yikes, gave me nightmares!

We had a couple of days left on our vacation and decided to look at homes around the lakes area north of where my parents farm was.  We had vacationed there on a number of occasions and even though it is far away from the Chicago area we thought we would give it a go. That night I arranged to meet with a realtor the next day.  I love the internet.  Found a house I liked, called the realtor, set up an appointment.  In the morning we drove to meet this realtor, Tom, at a showing in the three lakes area.
All day we looked at homes near three lakes and eagle river, maybe even Minoqua too, I don't recall the specifics.  They were too old, too far away from the lake, too big, too small.  Our list of must haves was getting longer and longer. By this time we were thinking that we should wait another year.  I thought  this year was not good for finding a home. 

We stayed in Eagle River that night and went to eat dinner.  During our meal I received a call from the realtor.  “I may have a house you would be interested in seeing”   I remember Gary and I both rolling our eyes.  “The house was for sale by the owners last spring, I called them and it is still avaiable.  I think this is what you are looking for. “  I told him that we were driving back in the morning.  He asked if we could see the house at 8am.  He could check with the owners. (We would later find out from the owners that they went crazy cleaning the home and getting it ready long into the night.) We agreed.

In the morning we met the realtor at his office and we followed him to the showing.  We learned it was only 4 years old.  We could check that off our list. We passed a Walmart, a ShopKo, and what looked to be a brand new Hospital.  Being close to civilization, another one of our criteria was met.  Shortly past the hospital we turned onto a gravel road. Immediately, I felt Gary tense, gravel roads are not his thing. On the other hand the road was lined with Birches and pine and was beautiful.  Not more than a quarter mile up we turned into the drive of what looked like a brand new but very ordinary house.

Then we walked through the front Door…….

The View from my Windows

On Wisconsin! On Wisconsin! Part 2

On Wisconsin, On Wisconsin!!

Then we moved on.  So we thought what state next? We were familiar with western Michigan because of the occasional vacation there and of course our son lived there for a little bit.  Grand Rapids was actually a potential. But it wasn’t on the shores of Lake Michigan and I was not ready to head further east .  And so our journey for the perfect house moved north to the familiar land of Wisconsin.

My close family and friends know the following but I will give you some history on why I feel more comfortable in Wisconsin.  It all started when I was 12 years old and my Mom and Dad began a similar quest to find a “hobby” farm.  We were all working in the kitchen making corn relish one day and the conversation started something like this, “Wouldn’t it be great if we could grow our own corn to make corn relish.” Shortly thereafter the search began. After beginning their search in Illinois and moving north, Mom and Dad did eventually buy a place in Antigo Wi and I spent a lot of my summer days up there.  After my children were born, and we were in our money scrounging days, we vacationed at the farm often.  When my parents died, we sold the farm but I always knew in my heart that I would someday come home to the land of hills and lakes and potatoes and cheese. 

Southeastern Wisconsin is beautiful .  When we started out we were still looking at builders.  We thought perhaps we could find something within our means in that area but no luck.  The only  new build areas that seemed to be within our means were set in a more subdivision- like area.  We then looked north to the Milwaukee suburbs.  There are some really  nice areas around there. We learned more and more about what goes into building your own home. At this point we had a change of heart.  We decided not to build.

By thy Rivers Gently Flowing Illinois, Illinois Part 1

 2 years ago Gary and I set out on a quest to find a home in which to retire someday. Looking only in the on line realty sites I realized three things.  The first was that we could not afford to live close to home.  The second was that I wanted somewhere different. And lastly no fixer uppers! It must be move in ready. And so began our house hunting adventure into the land of the new homes.

We made a list of what we wanted and did not want in our future home/home site.  First and foremost we wanted familiarity.  We are Midwesterners. Although we love the beauty of Montana and Wyoming, we are not Westerners. I am the perpetual flatlander. There is something to be said for seeing the horizon line without having to tilt your head back. I also wanted to be able to hop in my car and drive a few hours to my sons should they need me. I would find it hard to live without Lake Michigan or Lake Superior being in close proximity. It was decided. Our search would cover Illinois, Michigan, Wisconsin and maybe Indiana or Minnesota.  We began our hunt in Illinois.

We traveled first to the areas just beyond the suburbs of Chicago both west and north. Looking to downsize, we had no interest in the the new home builds which consisted mainly of 2 stories. Most of the one floor homes were in  55 and older neighborhoods. That does not appeal to me. We continued to look further and further west. Lordy, when God passed out the natural beauty sprinkles the wind must have blown them right through Illinois without allowing them touch land. Don’t get me wrong. I grew up here and I really am drawn to the beauty of the flat lands, the unending sky, the fields of corn and soy, the plowed tilled earth are all in my blood.  However,when I wake up in the morning and sit with coffee in hand, I want to look out the window and smile at the beauty spread before me. There are a few beautiful places in Illinois, such as the river valleys, but  one of our taboos was to not live on a river. As we continued our search we decided to include newer construction as well. Building from scratch is a lot of work! After a long exhaustive search there were many reasons we did not find Illinois appealing. The quest for the final home continued.

1st real tree in 25 years!

The Search for My Own "Green Acres" The intro to our new home search

     At 1am the sky was filled with stars. The air was silent. Getting up just before dawn, I find the day may bring snow. The stars have been replaced by the dull grey of morning clouds moving quite rapidly from the west. My husband, perusing his kindle for the weather, announces that the winds could hit 40mph. The tall oak beside my window is swaying in the breeze. It takes some doing to make that oak sway. Our home thermometer reads in the teens. Winter has finally come.

     I have not written much since I turned 60. I am not sure why that number seemed to change things for me but it did. I felt the same way about 30. I could no longer blame my follies, my indecisiveness, and my inexperience on my youth. It was a number that marked, for me, my entry into adulthood. I am not sure why turning 60 made me rethink things but it did. I began to question my priorities. What possibilities await me? It is said that change is harder as one grows older.  For me, to move, to switch careers, is like breathing. And I haven’t done that in quite some time. I had children to raise, parents to care for, a career to nourish. Well, the kids are grown and at least one is soon to be married. Gary and I cared for and buried our parents many years ago. As for my career, I am still wrestling with that. But wrestling will keep me growing and expanding.

      One thing that Gary and I knew for sure was that we would not stay in the house we called home for the last 12 years. As beautiful as it is, as gorgeous our yard is, it is too big, too costly, too much work. And so our quest began, like Frodo and Samwise, like Jason and his Argonauts, like the Joads in “The Grapes of Wrath”…well perhaps not like any of these but it was a journey that ended happily. I know this because I am already at the end of the home search journey as I sip my coffee, finally writing again. It feels good.

My Mom's Bread Dressing (Stuffing) Recipe | Just A Pinch Recipes

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Harvest

On Franklin Lake

Time to Stop

The Lake

Summer Lake Watercolor

"And now go, and make interesting mistakes, make amazing mistakes, make glorious and fantastic mistakes. Break rules. Leave the world more interesting for your being here. Make good art" Neil Gaiman. 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ikAb-NYkseI&feature=kp

So today I changed my blog name, as I am officially out of my 50’s.  I have reached the half way mark!  If I live to be 120, and with medicine being the way it is, I may just do that.  So, I thought I would take some time and not reminisce (because I have already done that over the last month as I worked my way through a million photographs from birth to present)  but instead, I am going to set up some goals for the next couple, 3-4 decades. 

Where I want to go is a list that keeps changing from year to year, but I think the following are realistic for my pocketbook. I have been to every state in the union except Alaska so I would like to see that. I would like to visit Britain, France, Italy, and Germany.  I never got around to visiting mainstream Europe and would like to do that soon.  As far as the USA, I want to see Yosemite National Park, which means another trip to California.  We can definitely do that!  Acadia National Park in Maine is an experience I have wanted to share with Gary for a long time. I want to see Glacier National park in the summer or early fall.  I want to go back to Charleston South Carolina because it was the most magical city I have ever visited.  The Grand Hotel on Mackinaw Island would be on the list.  Everyone should see Mackinaw Island even if you can’t afford the Grand Hotel. I want to see Vermont in the fall.  There is so much here in the states, so much beauty.  Have I ever mentioned that I love this country?

What do I want to do?  Even though I joke about retiring I don’t have any plans to end my nursing career anytime soon. I would like to stay in the position I am in for the time being and continue honing my craft.  As I approach 70, dropping down to part time would be preferable to quitting work. I get so much satisfaction from caring for people. On the other hand, my art means a lot to me and having just started working towards my BFA at NIU, I hope to hone those skills as well. I don’t think I could make a living at it but I love to paint.  It’s good to have a passion.  I guess I plan to stay busy.

Mostly though, I just want to continue growing with Gary.  Notice I didn’t say grow old.  The parts may start wearing out but many are fixable.  Our brains though need everyday stimulation.  I think we can become as lazy with our brains as we do with our bodies.  I want my brain to function as well at 80 as it is at 60, God willing.  I want to stay abreast of current events.  I want to read every book I can get my hands on.  I want to move somewhere that doesn’t have as much traffic but not to a 55 and older community.  I want to build my own house.  And I want to find a church that fits.  I want to continue to help others whether it is with my nursing skills or with other life skills that I have. 

This brings me to my final statement, because my husband is waiting for me to soak in the hot tub.  We all love to give advice and I am no different.  My advice is a saying that rings true for me and really you should try it.  “The more you give, the more you get.”  Always be generous to others and do it without expecting anything in return.  The joy of giving outweighs any joy you get from receiving.  There you go, sage advice from a woman celebrating the 21^st anniversary of her 39^th birthday. 

 This is a bit of Holland Mi summer dreaming.. I call it "Coming Home"

And these are "poppies"  I am going to give this to a friend who asked me a year ago to paint her some poppies but I did not have the confidence.  I have improved with practice.

Door County Dreamin'

St. Patrick's Day Deconstructed

      St. Patrick' Day?  I’ve seen a few.  I remember a few too. In my youth the date was synonymous with green beer, party till dawn, Dance the jig until you fall from exhaustion. It was gaiety, wildness, the North’s answer to Mardi Gras.  Although, I recall, I did spend one St. Patrick’s Day in New Orleans.  I remember that one, It was fun. 

      St. Patrick’s Day slowly dwindled to date nights with limited celebration.  When the boys came along it became green decorations in my home.  As the boys grew it became the annual corned beef and cabbage dinner.  Although it was many years before my husband and sons would eat the cabbage, I persevered.  After the boys disappeared to college, Gary and I would have the meal at home or if we were travelling we would stop at the local eatery to enjoy someone else’s recipe.  Then it happened.  When I thought we could not get any further from my original crazy St Paddy’s day festivities, this year we are celebrating by having corned beef on rye. Really?  

  

However, this year my eldest had a wonderful experience.  Dan and Liz were part of the St. Patrick’s Day that is Chicago.  If you are a St. Patrick’s Day aficionado you have to see the Chicago River turn green at least once in your life.  It is Chicago at its finest.

Deb’s Corned Beef and Cabbage dinner

2 cuts of corned beef, flat cut, lean
10 small red potatoes, more if you have lots of potato lovers to feed.  Clean well and remove some of the skin before adding them to the pot.
1 head of Cabbage,  regular or savoy (If no one likes cabbage, try the savoy) Cut into quarters going through the core to keep each wedge intact.
½ jar of McCormick Pickling spice
6-10 cloved of garlic peels and cut in half

1.      Put both cuts of meat in a very large pot with the spices and bring to a boil.  Lower heat and simmer for 2 1/2 hours
2.      Add potatoes and boil until tender when poked with a fork.  About 20-30 minutes. Remove with a slotted spoon and drain in colander.
3.      Remove corned beef, cover to keep warm
4.      Add Cabbage to the boiling water and cook until done.
5.      Melt a bunch of butter and pour over both the cabbage and the potatoes.  The corned beef should be ready for slicing. 

  Enjoy!  And Happy St. Patrick's Day!

 

hummingbird 3/6/14

My picture from my last watercolor class.  Can't wait until the next class starts!  In the mean time I think I will just keep on painting.